Don't be a loser!

I was reading a dating/picking-up-girls website some time ago, and there was someone there writing a post about how to get a woman taking her top off when she joins you in a hot tub. He went through 4 different scenarios about what to do, how to do it, and why it should be done that way.

I thought, "Oh.My.God." That's all. It wasn't an exclamation of wonder and joy, as one would do when the light is lit and you see something you've never seen before.

No, it was an exclamation of shock that this person was giving instructions on what to do when a woman joins you in the hot tub. And what was even more shocking was that there were a whole bunch of replies to his post about what a good post it was, and how they appreciated the information.

Holy crap! These people are losers!
Let me explain why.

#1 - the woman gets into the hot tub with you. It's just her and you (with you being a guy, of course), and by default, it means she's interested in you and whatever might happen. You need instructions about what to do next??? Oh My God.

#2 - WHAT'S A WOMAN DOING IN A HOT TUB WITH YOU WITH HER CLOTHES ON?! That scared me just with that alone. No wonder the guy's got all these strategies for trying to get her to take her top off.

Here's the amazing secret I'm about to tell you. If a woman gets into a hot tub with you, just relax and enjoy yourself, and when she gets close enough and in the right position (where it's easy for you to take her top off), TAKE THE DAMN THING OFF FOR HER! She's not going to say no, and will be wondering what took you so long! (That's why she's maneuvered herself around for you to do that.)

Men worry too much about what to do. They complicate things. They make things more difficult than what they need to be. They ignore the signs, and as a result they screw things up for themselves.

It's simple, so here's a clue...

If she doesn't want to be with you, she'll let you know by not being with you. It means she's not attracted to you. Let it go and move on.

If she does want to be with you, she'll let you know by being with you. If she's with you, then she likes you. If she likes you, she'll want you to 'do things' to her. This includes fooling around, getting sexy, all that kind of stuff. One thing leads to another, you know what I mean. Just do to her what you would do if she was your girlfriend. This is how she BECOMES your girlfriend, but only by you making it happen through assumption, after reading the signs she's giving you.

Don't complicate things. Men think they need to be told, but really, the telling's in the body language. Read the signs, and go for it.

Don't be a loser.

(And remember, always be respectful, just in case you're reading the wrong signs. Be funny, charming, and sexy. And have fun.)